By Dr. Scott Zarcinas, Founder, 818: Unlocking Your Life

For years, I chased what I thought success was supposed to look like.

The “right” career path, the “perfect” lifestyle, the goals everyone else seemed to chase. I checked all the boxes. I showed up, put in the work, and got the rewards for my efforts.

It wasn’t a bad life. Not at all.

But it didn’t feel like mine. It was like I was following someone else’s script, living a life I hadn’t chosen. Like I was wearing a suit that didn’t quite fit.

Then it hit me:

The problem wasn’t my life—it was that I wasn’t building it around what truly mattered to me.

I wasn’t being true to my values, my passion, my purpose.

I wasn’t being me.

The Real Shift: From External Goals to Internal Alignment

When I finally stopped to listen—really listen—to what I wanted, things got clear fast. I had to get back to me.

Not by tossing the baby out with the bathwater, but by making choices that fit who I am.

For me, that meant walking away from a job that looked impressive but was sucking the life out of me. For my clients, it looks different every time:

• Rethinking a relationship that’s more draining than uplifting.
• Rediscovering a passion they’ve buried under years of “shoulds.”
• Facing that one issue they’ve been dodging forever.
• Starting something new—not to prove anything, but because it feels right.

Here’s the good news: you don’t need a dramatic overhaul. It’s not about reinventing your whole life overnight.

It’s about small, authentic choices. Saying no to what doesn’t fit. Saying yes to what does.

It starts with one question: “Is this really me?”

It’s Not About Fixing Yourself—It’s About Finding Yourself

We tell ourselves we’re broken. That if we’re stuck, we’ve failed. But that’s a lie.

You’re not broken—you just haven’t had the space to build a life that’s truly yours.

We’re handed blueprints from day one—by family, school, society. We’re rewarded for fitting in, for following the rules, for “doing it right.”

But no one teaches us to ask, “What’s the right choice that aligns with who I really am?”

Until life forces the question. Until you hit that moment where staying on the wrong path costs too much. That’s when something shifts.

That’s when clients come to me—not because their life is falling apart, but because they know there’s more. They feel it. They’re ready to find it.

And they do.

When You Align, Things Start to Flow

When you start making choices that are true to you—your values, your energy, your purpose—life changes. Not always in a flashy, Hollywood way. But in a real, lighter way.

Work starts to feel like it matters. Relationships either click or fall away naturally. You’ve got more energy—not because you’re doing less, but because you’re doing what’s you.

You’re not performing for anyone. You’re not proving anything. You’re just living, with clarity and purpose.

Because success isn’t the goal. You are.

So If You’re Feeling Stuck, Try This

Ask yourself:

• What parts of my life feel like they belong to someone else?

• Where am I saying yes when I really mean no?

• What have I been avoiding that actually matters to me?

• What would I do if I didn’t care what anyone else thought?

Then take one step. Not a leap. Just a step.

Progress often comes from movement in a new direction—not from doing the same thing over and over again.

Ready to Move Forward?

If you’re ready, I can help you make that shift.

Not by handing you a 10-step plan for happiness, but by helping you reconnect with yourself first.

Because when you do that—when you come home to yourself—everything else falls into place.

If any of this resonates—if you’re stuck, or drifting, or just tired of feeling like you’re not quite living your own life—I’d be delighted to help.

Let’s find the version of life that actually fits you.

👉 Book your complimentary Discovery Session today and discover how personalised life coaching can help you achieve the transformation you’ve been seeking.