By Dr. Scott Zarcinas, Founder, 818: Unlocking Your Life

Many of my clients are mentally tired and exhausted.

They don’t actually say, “I’m trapped in a cycle of self-doubt and negativity,” but that’s exactly what they’re experiencing. It’s one of the main underlying causes of their mental exhaustion.

What they want is a way out. To drop the mental sluggishness, to stop the incessant negative chatter of the imposter, to feel human again.

So I offer them the best way I know to feel reinvigorated and energetic again:

Taking back control of their inner dialogue.

Transform Your Self-Talk

This is how I help them transform their self-talk to spark positivity and reclaim control.

1/ Harnessing the Power of Positive Self-Talk:

Let’s say you find yourself criticising your every move or dwelling on past mistakes. Then it’s important to recognise that the words you speak to yourself have a profound impact on your emotions and actions.

Instead of berating yourself, try replacing negative thoughts with affirmations of self-approval and self-acceptance.

For example, when faced with a challenge, tell yourself, “I am capable and resilient. I can overcome this obstacle.”

2/ Understanding the Roots of Negative Beliefs:

If you struggle with feelings of inadequacy or fear of rejection, these beliefs have likely stemmed from early experiences, such as childhood criticism or neglect.

By acknowledging the origins of these beliefs, you can begin to challenge and reframe them.

For instance, if you were often criticised as a child, remind yourself that your worth is not defined by others’ opinions. You are inherently valuable and deserving of love and respect.

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3/ Practicing Reparenting Techniques:

Furthermore, if you long for the comfort and security you never received as a child, the practice of “reparenting” offers a practical way to heal past wounds.

For instance, you can provide comfort and validation by writing a letter to your younger self or practicing self-care.

This will address your previously unmet emotional needs with compassion and understanding, cultivating a sense of self-acceptance and peace in this moment now.

4/ Adopting Empowering Self-Statements:

Suppose you are tired of feeling insecure and unworthy. In that case, you can take a leaf from the books of those who exude confidence and self-assurance and adopt empowering self-statements that reflect your inherent worth and potential.

For example, repeat phrases like, “I am worthy of love and respect,” or “I trust myself to navigate life’s challenges with honesty and resilience.”

As you internalise these affirmations, you’ll notice a shift in your self-talk and a newfound sense of confidence and empowerment.

Ready to Transform Your Success Journey?

Success isn’t about looking over the fence at what others are doing—it’s about nurturing your own garden.

Every person I’ve coached started exactly where you are now: ready for change but unsure of the next step.

Want to explore how professional life coaching could help you achieve your version of success? Book a complimentary Discovery Session to discuss your unique path to success. Together, we’ll create a roadmap that turns your aspirations into reality.

About the Author: Dr. Scott Zarcinas (aka DoctorZed) is an author, doctor, and transformational life coach with over 15 years of experience helping professionals achieve authentic success. Based in Adelaide, South Australia, he specialises in transforming potential into performance through personalised coaching programs.